“Memories aren’t merely scenes; they’re microscopic moments: powder sticking to your fingers after scarfing a funnel cake; holding your right arm out of the passenger window to feel it bounce in the wind; the hilarious whine of middle-school voices singing along with Kurt Cobain or Eddie Vedder.”
—John Hendrickson

One story at a time

AND THEN…?
“Whether you’re interviewing your parents about their childhood or gathering family history info from your grandparents, good follow-up questions are key.”

INTERGENERATIONAL BONDING THROUGH STORIES
“I wish I had learned more of [my grandfather’s] stories, but he died before I knew what to ask and how to listen,” Rachael Cerrotti writes in this reflection on Lois Lowry’s new book, Tree. Table. Book.”

“WHAT’S IT LIKE BEING YOU?”
Brandon Doman founded The Strangers Project in 2009, and he’s collected (in person!) more than 85,000 handwritten individual stories. “I want to create a space for people to connect with the stories of the people they share their world with, and to connect with their own story. To put it simply, I do this because someone just might need it.” (Want to contribute or immerse yourself in stories? The project currently has a gallery-style exhibition at The Oculus in downtown NYC.)

A RICH LIFE
“I don’t want people to feel that their childhood needs to be their life story,” Ina Garten told a NYT reporter when discussing how the media has reported almost solely on one portion of her memoir. “You are not who your parents thought you were, or whatever bad thing that happened to you.”

OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION
“The memories and narratives that form the core of a family’s identity can fade—or worse, be lost entirely—especially if a loved one begins to experience cognitive decline.” Jamie Yuenger, StoryKeep founder, on how procrastination is a thief when it comes to family legacy.

Craft and memoir

MESSY, VULNERABLE STORIES
“For those of us [book editors] who worked on memoir, the egg we carried was a little more fragile, the pieces we sometimes picked up, the shattered part of ourselves.” Betsy Lerner on the act of writing a confessional memoir as both a ray of hope and a cry for help. 

A QUEST FOR ‘NARRATIVE COMPLETION’
When Kyo Maclear took a DNA test to learn more about her father’s ancestry, her long-held family narrative deflated. In this interview, we get a glimpse into the thematic layers of the memoir that resulted, Unearthing: A Story of Tangled Love and Family Secrets.

PAINTING ACCURATE SELF-PORTRAITS
“I mined my brain, every crevice, searching for parts of me that only I knew. Even though not all the information I obtained was used in my writing, once I brought my protagonist to life and set him aside from the crowd with oddities and quirks, I began my story.” Travis Harman on the craft of character in memoir.

“PATRIOT,” A POSTHUMOUS MEMOIR
“When you lose somebody who’s very close to you, you want everyone to remember him.” In the case of Aleksei Navalny’s, his wife has published his prison memoirs (in 22 languages) for a greater good, too: “to instill hope in the struggling Russian opposition movement, and to keep her husband present in the world.”

Pictures and stories

SNAPSHOTS OF INTIMACY
“A joint memoir by the Nobel winner [Annie Ernaux] and her former lover [Marc Marie] uses pictures taken during their time together to reflect on the transient nature of passion—and of life.”

FINDING THE UNIVERSAL IN THE PARTICULAR
In Juggling Life’s Threads, photographer Adam Lin creates a pictorial portrait of one man’s life (informed by a series of in-depth interviews that guided the photography), digging deep into his subject’s personal life, “where duty and passion intersect.”

Making history personal

SHAPING HISTORY
“History, as the word suggests, is always personal.... Every episode in human history is built on countless individual memories.” Lessons from Germany on keeping memories of historical wrongs alive.

GENEALOGICAL TRUTH-TELLING
“There’s something deeply moving about Bruno and Mire, descendant of the enslaver and descendant of the enslaved, working together to gain a clear-eyed view of their shared history.” A Hudson Valley Reckoning highlights not only the author’s family roots, but also the erasure of enslavement history in the North.

THE HOLOCAUST’S GRANDCHILDREN
“To be of the third generation [of Holocaust survivors]…is to have just the right proximity to the event—close enough to want to keep it in memory, not so close to want it in the present tense; close enough to think it is a part of them, not so close to think it cannot have different meanings for others.”

...and a few more links

• Oliver Sacks archive heads to the New York Public Library.

• Ideas to write a novel based on your life and family history.

• Beth Kephart on the memoir responsible for her “memoir obsessed life”

• To Coney, With Love collects memories of a beloved Ohio amusement park.

• Keep your memories organized and safe with a photo storage box.

• A plethora of free resources from The National Genealogical Society in honor of Family History Month.

• Lily Ebert, who kept Holocaust memory alive on TikTok, dies at 100.

• Photographer recaptures childhood memories with his grandfather’s 70-year-old camera.

• New research shows how brain records complex aspects of social memory.

• How to archive your photos in a digital age

• As living memory of the Holocaust fades, a replica of Anne Frank’s secret annex opens in New York City.

Short takes